Violence and Harassment in the Workplace - Dealing with Negative Interactions

We all like to think of ourselves as being safe and secure while at work, protected from all forms of violence and aggression. However, wherever people interact there is potential for violence. The advice in this document will help keep communications between individuals – whether they are managers, supervisors and co-workers or employees and the customers, clients, patients, or student they work or interact with – on a positive note.

Knowing some basic communications skills (verbal and non-verbal) and some "problem solving" strategies can help prevent problems from occurring or can stop a small problem from getting bigger or out of control. Workplace harassment and violence can start as a small incident involving negative remarks and inappropriate behaviour. These small incidents can sometimes escalate to physical or psychological violence.

NOTE: In this document, we use the term violence to also include bullying and harassment

Please refer to the following OSH Answers documents for more information:

• Bullying in the Workplace
• Internet Harassment or Cyberbullying
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Family (Domestic) Violence
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Legislation
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Dealing with Negative Interactions
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Parking Lot Safety
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Warning Signs
• Violence and Harassment in the Workplace – Working Late

Verbal communication skills are the way that you talk to another person or other people. Verbal communication includes the words you choose to use and the way in which you use them (for example, the tone (angry or calm) or volume (loud or soft)).

When you are interacting with other people, you should:

• Focus your attention on the other person and let them know that you are interested in what they have to say.
• Look at the person when they are talking. DO NOT look away as if disinterested.
• Remain calm.
• Be conscious of how you are delivering your words.
• Speak slowly, quietly and confidently.
• Speak simply. DO NOT use official language or complex terminology.
• Listen carefully. DO NOT interrupt or offer unsolicited advice or criticism.
• Encourage the other person to talk. DO NOT tell them to relax or calm down.
• Remain open-minded and objective.
• Use silence as a calming tool.
• Ask if you can take a few "brief notes" to help you retain the information. This conveys that you are interested.
• Encourage the person to talk. Ask questions that require a lengthy explanation as this can defuse the intensity of the interaction. DO NOT tell the person to relax or calm down.
• Try to understand. Ask questions. Make statements like "Help me understand why you are upset."

Non-verbal communication skills include things like your body language and position. People communicate through both their words and their bodies. The way you position or use your body can be calming or could aggravate a situation.

You should:

• Use calm body language – a relaxed posture with your hands unclenched and an attentive expression.
• Get on the other person's physical level. If they are seated, try kneeling or bending over, rather than standing over them.
• Give the other person enough physical space, usually about one metre (about 3 feet).
• Position yourself at a right angle rather than directly in front of the other person.

More importantly, you should not:

• Pose in a challenging stance, such as putting your hands on your hips, pointing your finger, waving your arms, or crossing your arms.
• Glare or stare, which may be interpreted as challenging.

Some tips for understanding the other's concerns include:

• Try to put yourself in the person's shoes so that you can better understand their concerns.
• Ask for his or her recommendations.
• Repeat back to the person what you feel they are asking of you in order to clarify what you understand.
• Accept criticism in a positive way. When a complaint might be true, use statements like "you are probably right" or "it was my fault". If the criticism seems unwarranted, ask for clarification.
• Be honest. DO NOT make false statements or promises you can't keep.
• Be familiar with your organization's complaint procedures and apply them fairly.
• Remain professional and take the person seriously. Be respectful.
• Ask for small, specific favours – such as asking the person to move to a quieter area.
• Break a problem or an issue into smaller pieces and offer step-by-step solutions so that the person is not overwhelmed by the issue.
• Be reassuring and point out choices.

It is important that you try to avoid escalating the situation. Establish ground rules if the unreasonable behaviour continues. Calmly describe the consequences of violent or aggressive behaviour. Suggest alternatives, and avoid giving commands or making conditional statements.

If your situation involves punishment or sanctions (for example, you are an enforcement officer), and you feel that the situation is becoming very negative or escalating, do not proceed until you have back-up or the situation is safer.

DO NOT

• Do not take sides or agree with distortions.
• Do not reject the person's demands or position from the start.
• Do not attempt to bargain with a threatening individual. If necessary, end the interaction.
• Do not make promises you can't keep.

It is important to know how to safely and effectively end a conversation or interaction before the situation escalates. Here are some tips:

• Interrupt the conversation firmly but politely.
• Tell the person that you:
  • Do not like the tone of the conversation.
  • Will not accept abusive treatment.
  • Will end the conversation if necessary.
• Tell the person that you will ask him or her to leave (the building, your office, etc.) or that you will leave.
• If the behaviour continues, end the conversation. Ask the person to leave, or leave yourself.
• If the person does not agree to leave, remove yourself from the scene and inform your manager or supervisor immediately.
• Do not return to the meeting if you believe the person may be a physical threat.
• Tell other staff and have them leave the immediate area as well.
• Call security or your local police, as necessary.
• File an incident or occurrence report with your employer as part of the workplace harassment and violence prevention policy and procedures.

Politely and calmly end the interaction in a non-threatening way, if possible.

Know what back-up and advice (e.g. from your manager, supervisor or a co-worker) is available to help you when handling a difficult individual.

Get help

• Send for security or someone more senior.
• Use a silent alarm.
• Use a pre-arranged code word.

If you have threatened to call the police or security, be sure that you do.